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Breakfast: Kashi 7 grain waffle, 1/2 mashed banana, fat-free cottage cheese, cinnamon, & sugar-free syrup

Isn’t it cool how daily devotionals seem to be JUST what you need to hear sometimes?  I love how God does that.  It makes me feel like He’s really close (even though I know He always is). 

Lunch salad: shredded romaine, tomato, snap peas, broccoli, cauliflower, cucumber, & turkey breast lunchmeat, with homemade honey mustard on the side

Truth be told, I’ve been feeling a little defeated recently.  Things at home seem to be slipping downhill slowly, and I’m not sure how to deal with it.  I will be paying rent, starting next month, and I almost feel like I would rather be staying somewhere else (where I can shower when I want, workout when I want, & come/go as I please) if I’m going to be paying.  Not that I don’t love every single person in my family, but it can be frustrating when I get a lecture for spending all my time working out, for a streak left on the countertop after I clean something up, or for not closing my lips around my toothbrush when I brush my teeth.  Yes, this is a reality at 22 years-old

fresh watermelon snack

As much as I appreciate the fact that my parents put a roof over my head and would do anything for me if I asked, I can only handle so much micromanaging at this point in my life.  For the most part, I have my own schedule, but I feel like they don’t respect me at all as an adult.  In fact, I’ve been told that my job is “a joke”, I don’t “have any real responsibilities”, and I “am very dependant” on them.  I thought about things realistically, and I guess they’re right.  I feel like nothing I do, in their eyes is respectable.

snack #2: peanut flour paste & baby carrots

-I bought my own car & make payments every month
-I’m on my own car insurance plan & have monthly payments
-I’m paying my way through school (although, Poppa FF did pay for my first two books as a special treat)
-I am on my own cell phone plan which I pay monthly (both sisters and my grandparents are on my parents’)
-I work a full-time job & took full-time classese last semester so I could play college basketball
-I’m taking part-time classes over the summer

Dinner: grilled vegetables (squash, zucchini, peppers, onions, mushrooms) in Free Zesty Italian dressing, grilled chicken

My wonderful boyfriend was the one who brought most of these things to my attention when I was venting to him last night.  He is easily the only thing keeping me sane right now, and the parents are actually quite charming while he is around.

Dessert- strawberries mixed with vanilla Oikos greek yogurt

What would you do in my situation?  Are you a twenty some-thing living at home?  Do you pay rent? I’m not sure what to think or feel, so any opinion is welcomed (: 

 

XO.

 

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15 responses »

  1. “Love you Sami”

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  2. Living with your parents in your 20’s is extremely difficult. I completely empathize with you. I didn’t leave the nest until I was 29, after experiencing two broken engagements and finally having the strength to get on my own and start creating a life for me and Skyler by myself (and I still depend on them a lot for help). I can certainly appreciate what you are going through. Try not to let it bring you down. There is so much about you that is wonderful and I am absolutely certain that your parents would agree. Keep your chin up, there are much brighter days ahead.

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    • Thanks girl 🙂 I didn’t mean for this to be a “woe is me” post…I just love that I can vent to the blogworld and get some feedback/advice! If you don’t mind my asking, how much is rent at the townhomes you live in?

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  3. Ugh, Sami, I feel you. I have the exact same problems. They are dictating my life. Ok, so it’s mostly my mom but she is driving me nuts. I work 12 hour nights, have to make the bed when I wake up, wash put away any dishes I make (and you know the way we eat produces lots of dishes), sleep, make all my food, and go back to work. And then they have the nerve to say I do nothing all day (hello, when can I sleep?!) Annnnd, I buy expensive food and produce. I make things like those muffins, and I’ll come home the next day and I’ll have two muffins left from a batch of 12. But nobody pays for my groceries or eats healthy for that matter. That’s so funny you posted this because I almost had a similar post today. Ok, I’m done ranting. But yeah, it’s not easy. In fact, it’s downright crap.

    Loved the toothbrush comment. Sometimes my mom still puts toothpaste on my toothbrush for me (her way of knowing if I did it or not) even though she knows I brush my teeth ALL THE TIME.

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    • I know! It’s so crazy how relatable we are. And as far as the Mom/dishes thing, it’s like they can’t just wait and leave them there until I can get to them (later that night), it’s got to be done in THEIR time. I know exactly what you mean. You can rant to me anytime 🙂 You are so not alone. Lol. My Dad goes crazy if he can HEAR me brushing (my mouth is open). It’s ridiculous.

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  4. wow, i’m so sorry the living situation isn’t ideal! i know how you feel when you say that you’re dependent on them and that you’re grateful but still want to move on. i decided to move out of my parent’s house but ultimately you have to do what is right for you. for me, i finally have a stable job & saved money to afford it comfortably. however, i would not have moved had it not been the perfect apartment.
    listen to your heart & you’ll hear the right answer!

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    • Thanks so much for the encouragement, girl. I’m trying to stick it out (: It does save me a lot of money, and it’s a time in my life that I’ll never get back (watching my sister grow up, etc).

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  5. This is Shocking!!!!

    First of all you need to establish BOUNDARIES. It is not okay for them to say some of that stuff…Your job is a joke?
    Not OKAY!
    That is insulting.

    Also, when you are paying rent maybe you can answer to their complaints about your habits buy saying “I pay rent here” I will come and go as I please. However I would move out if you can…sounds like it brings you down and might start to ruin your relationship with the fam.
    Keep us posted please!

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    • They love me. I know that. I also know people say things out of anger, and I probably shouldn’t have posted it on the blog. I’m not trying to make it sound like I have a horrible living arrangement, because I don’t. I truly am grateful, I just need some space. You’re right thoough. When I’m paying rent, I refuse to let them guilt trip me about anything on my schedule! 😉 xo.

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  6. ❤ XOXOXO I am so sorry Sami! Sending you all my love, support, friendship, hugs and prayers. I know how this feels!! There are no words- and hurt runs deep. You are in my prayers sister!

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